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Now isn’t that extra special ? |
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Anyone else reminded of the move American Psycho? Ok, maybe it was because I just rented it, but still. |
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"On the other side, the tendency was to play down or abolish indicators of real accomplishment."
Yes, that is kind of weird. We are all mediocre, but special. I wonder what it does to the self-esteem of the would-be valedictorian to be told that their accomplishment is something to be ashamed of? |
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But take heart. It’s official ... the experts now say "quit telling kids they’re special every time they turn around." Instead, tell them they’re special when they’re actually special. You mean it doesn’t take a village? |
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"I’m special, So special. I’ve got to have some of your attention... Give it to me!!" |
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OK but if I ruled the world, it really *would* be a better place. Is that so wrong?
Kidding aside, as a parent of five I can say the self-esteem movement is unfortunately alive and well. I admit I bought into it for the first one and he has an amazingly self-centered and fragile personality. My younger ones, on the other hand, get cheers only when they do something good enough to get my attention. They demonstrate far more stick-to-it-iveness and appear to get a greater sense of satisfaction out of their accomplishments. |
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Gollum
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Ah, the triumph of behaviorism over all other schools of psychology. "Feelings," in the long run, really don’t amount to a hill of beans. Behavior is what really matters. Somewhere in the afterlife, B.F. Skinner is rejoicing! |
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The Poet Omar
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Hark hark! Time for the demands! More money for the education system to teach the kids they’re not special without making them feel like they’re not special!
I saw a sample of this two weeks ago - how ironic. My neighbors daughter told her mom she had hurt her self-esteem because mom suggested that spending $1000.00 a month on credit cards while going to college (and not working) really wasn’t going to pass muster any more! |
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The proper course of education seems as though it should exclude most emotional and psychological instruction, that a contrary impulse toward teaching self-esteem and the like was tedious to me when I was young enough to be subject to it and has long seemed foolish to me. I can’t recall surely whether or not I sang that insipid, "I am special," song, but the attitude that it holds up was certainly common. In truth I had not thought that it had been to any real effect and merely wasted time, that it has promoted narcissism is quite distressing. Feelings and attitudes are surely the only thing that American schools teach worse than they teach history and the least proper of the two that they have any right to be teaching at all. |
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My wife and I have raised 4 children and we knew from almost day one that their wants exceeded their needs. Human nature being what it is, children take what they can get and want no consequences. I taught my children how to accept the word no, criticism, failure and the self control and thought process it takes to recover. Being an older parent probably helped me sort things out. My twin sons discovered the consequences of this over indulgence problem in college and reported to us what the researchers discovered. I have always believed that much of the stupid, illogical violence we see in our society is because people have never learned to accept defeat, failure or just plain being wrong. I have voiced my opinions in letters to editors, etc, so it is nice to see that the self-esteem crowd now has seen the light and has justified to me how I raised my children. I was beginning to worry. |
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I’ve been teaching college for 9 years now and even in that short time there’s been a noticeable increase in the amount of "attitude" and a decrease in the amount of respect my students have shown me. In a calculus class just a few years ago, I had a student come up and argue that he deserved full credit on a chain rule problem because he’d done it right, I was so unfair to mark him wrong, how dare I tell him that his way of doing the problem was wrong because he knew in his heart that it was right for him, etc. He called what I was trying to teach him "bullsh*t" in front of the entire class. After class I went over it with him and it was more of the same— you’re cramping my style, I do the chain rule this way, how come you’re so insistent that your way is right, etc. I had to remind the guy which of us had a degree or two in math and thus which of us was in a better position to know what the correct way to do the chain rule was and why. I usually don’t beat people over the head with my degrees, but this guy needed it badly.
Just about every semester there’s the inevitable angry email or call from the disgruntled F student who’s about to lose his scholarship. The one who is absolutely convinced that he deserves an A on personality alone and is shocked that he got an F even though he got an F on ten quizzes, three midterms, and a final. The worst ones are the ones studying to be teachers. I had a friend who was teaching the Math for Elementary School Teachers sequence and she regularly complained that the students were upset at her for giving them less than a C- when they were regularly getting 1 point out of 10 on their quizzes and similar midterm scores. They went into her office and argued that they should be passed just for keeping their chairs warm just like in their Education classes, because that’s how classes should be run, and the fact that Education classes were run like that was held up as proof of that assertion.
How many of us did this when we were in college? I know I certainly didn’t. |
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i think you have to be honest with your kids. we all have strengths and weaknesses. that is fine. there is always a way to use both of them to be who you want to be.
once you examine what your values are you will find a way to live your life with meaning. until that time you will be cheating yourself and you will expereince unhappiness which you will probably express to the world around you. |
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