If that’s the case, my simple advice to them would be stay home. If you’re that easily offended you just don’t belong out in public. And you certainly have no right to inflict your prejudices and fears on others who are simply trying as best they can to honor someone they love appropriately at their burial ceremony. Wait, are you trying to tell me it’s not actually all about me? |
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"survivors of the deceased need to provide material and request it be read." Emphasis above mine. I tend to disagree with this decision based on the bolded statement that the members of the deceased need to provide the materials. I think the honor guard should be allowed to provide the materials which the family can then choose to use or omit.
Also I think a service member when they are setting up their ’affairs’ should be able to indicate any specific instructions related to their ceremony including this portion with the option to omit or include it regardless of the "wishes" of their next of kin. |
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Emphasis above mine. I tend to disagree with this decision based on the bolded statement that the members of the deceased need to provide the materials. I think the honor guard should be allowed to provide the materials which the family can then choose to use or omit. And you don’t think that will happen prior to the service when the honor guard rep discusses the ceremony with the family?
Easy stuff. The HG rep hands the family a copy of the flag-folding ceremony. The family writes their name at the top of the copy and hand it back. "Material provided by family."
Next problem. |
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McQ
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Since when does someone being "offended" take priority over the wishes of the family of the deceased in a grave-side ceremony? Since for a long time, if not in funerals, then in just about everything else. Where are the easily offended NOT allowed to dictate what is and what isn’t allowed? |
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Where are the easily offended NOT allowed to dictate what is and what isn’t allowed? Apparently since I updated the post. ;-) |
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McQ
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But McQ, Fox this AM interviewed a guy who, since he recieves veteran’s benifits, in the past hasn’t qualified as a volunteer, but as an employee.
So those VA guys who do burials wouldn’t be allowed to read this.
And that’s most of who does read it.
Why couldn’t they have responded with something sane, like "Don’t like the recitation? Tough. Cope." |
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Not in any ceremony I’ve ever been involved with. Usually the military or a vets organization takes care of the flag. The VA cemetery rep stands around with his thumb in an appropriate orifice and makes sure everything goes smoothly. But the family sets up the events (and who is going to carry them out) at the funeral. At least that’s how it worked when I did both of my parents funerals at a National Cemetery.Why couldn’t they have responded with something sane, like "Don’t like the recitation? Tough. Cope." Or, alternatively, "thanks for your input" and then forgotten about it? |
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McQ
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Or, alternatively, "thanks for your input" and then forgotten about it? I think the proper translation is "We will take it under advisement."
And when I said VA Rep, I mean Vet organization. Guy looked like he was a Korea vet, if he was that young. |
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